Oh, Hey!

This is what I'm calling the unofficial book-addendum page; in other words, this is where I will be sharing all the thoughts I've had - that I continue to have - past the point of Refund Please being written and published.

With that, let me officially welcome you to my blog: Refund Processing.

Why that name? Well, in Refund Please I outline a model for the phases through which I progressed as a survivor of domestic violence, with the last phase having been Discovery. No matter the amount of time that has passed since getting out of the abusive relationship, I continue to discover a multitude of things about myself - my patterns, my expectations of others, my belief system and how I show up in the world.

Basically, the never-ending mental health journey that results from a relationship that falls anywhere on the spectrum of unhealthy-abusive dynamics very much feels like a refund waiting to be fully processed. Hence, Refund Processing.

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Trauma Fucked with My Intimacy

There's a question I ask throughout my book: Who am I? I'm quite certain it's a question that you all have asked yourselves at some point in this life. It may even be a question you're asking yourself right now. In fact, it's a question I ask myself most days. And here's the thing: I do know who I am. I just don't know who I am yet to become, and that's not something I am going to know...until I know. Scary, right? Right. I'll tell you why that's so scary - or, at leas

harlowkedzie

10 minutes ago4 min read

A Heated Rivalry Love Note: How This Story Can Help Heal Us (& Excite Us, Of Course)

Have you all heard of the masterpiece that is the Crave Original show, now on HBO Max, called Heated Rivalry? If you are anything like me, then the answer to that question is an unequivocal " Yes " ...Or perhaps, the answer is more of a " Have you lost your damn mind? Not only have I heard of Heated Rivalry, but I've watched every episode too many times to count, I've watched every possible reel related to Heated Rivalry, and I cannot live without it - in fact, I don't know

harlowkedzie

7 days ago5 min read

The Self-Aware Struggle is Real

How often do you walk through life (or, if you're a Wicked fan such as me, how often are you dancing through life?) without giving much thought to how you are showing up for yourself and for others? If you're anything like me, then it oftentimes feels much easier to do whatever your heart pleases in any given moment because it takes so much effort, so much energy, to be ever mindful of what you're saying, why you're saying it, & how it's perpetuating patterns you're trying t

harlowkedzie

Dec 143 min read